“Our greatest glory is not in never falling, but in rising every time we fall.” Confucius (551-479BCE)
Are you sick of working evenings and weekends? Are you fed up with feeling overwhelmed and stressed? Would you like to enjoy what you do, while having some quality time for the most important things in your life?
In modern society, work is busy, life is busy – increasingly, there is more to do and less time to do it in! How are on earth are you supposed to be successful, do a good job and lead the way, with so many roles and responsibilities to juggle? We are always rushing here, going there, so it isn’t surprising that we feel under pressure and tired. One in five of us think our work-life balance is getting worse.
Businesses today are facing changes that are happening at an incredibly fast rate. They are under many pressures, having to perform difficult and seemingly impossible juggling acts. They have to employ high-performing, self-motivated staff; manage the day-to-day affairs of the company, plan for the future and keep customers, employees and investors satisfied. Consequently, some businesses are finding it difficult to achieve and maintain a competitive advantage.
Therefore, organisations are seeking help with the discovery of key talent, development of inspirational leaders and balancing what is important – focusing on what they do well.
I have always believed people are the business, and people – not processes – contribute the most to the success or failure of an organisation. The potential of any business is a reflection of the people in the business.
Throughout my coaching career and personal experiences, I have observed escalating busyness of our lives. This way of working has become a habit and, because we are so used to working at this furious pace, we just carry on because we don’t know what to do differently.
But are we really happy working this way – are we being fulfilled, utilising our strengths and realising success? Or are we just doing too much and don’t know when or how to stop?
‘Carpe diem’ – seize the day. What does this statement actually mean to you – doing as much work as you can in one day?
The simple truth is you only have one opportunity to enjoy the life, so you need to make a decision as to what and who is important, and what you would like to do differently in the pursuit of balance. Do you think you will ever achieve anything for yourself or do you think you will continue to do everything for everybody else?
I find it interesting that when we are at work, we are always developing visions, goals and strategies to achieve success for the business. Why do we find it so hard to do this in our personal life?
We find it difficult to balance what is important to us, because we are conditioned and focused to work hard, but does that mean we are really working or living effectively?
We all have a choice – we can lead the life we are meant to live or let everything else take over. If we are to make changes, we need to face reality, reconnect with ourselves, open our eyes and really understand what is happening to us in present, not in the future.
How balanced are you?
You may be surprised or disappointed with the results. Indeed, your life may have created some very curious or unsettling shapes. Whatever your reaction, at least you know that you have a wonderful opportunity to do something positive to improve your current situation. I believe if you can see what is happening, you are half way to changing your reality. Now consider the following questions:
- How do you feel after completing the exercise?
- What did you learn?
- What would you like your ‘wheel of life’ to look like?
- Are you ready to make those changes and find a new balance?
Sam Skull specialises in providing work- life balance, leadership development coaching and mentoring predominately in the pharmaceutical arena. If you would like to subscribe to her free motivational newsletter and find out how Sam can help you to balance what is important to you or your organisation, check out samskull.com